Q: My daughter is rude in front of others but her explanation is that she wants to be cool.

A: She is insecure. She is trying too much to fit in. She cares a lot of how people think about her that means she has gone through something that has triggered it. She has been rejected before and it was so bad that she has not got over it and has totally changed her behavior in front of others. You need to find out what happened in the past and tell her that whoever it was that bullied her was wrong and that she doesn’t deserve to be treated that way. She is cool just the way she is and deserve better friends and better treatment. It is like the people she looked up to and wanted to follow and be like has publicly rejected her and made fun of her. Check if it is true. I’ve been there before.

No counselling needed from a third party. You are the best counselor.